Let me set the scene:
It’s 5pm on the night of your weekly girls night out #GNO. You’re in your silk robe standing in front of the mirror. You’ve thought about what to wear, but after hours of trying on clothes, tonight’s pre-arranged outfit is just not doing the trick. Back to square one you go. Just as you pull out that one old reliable outfit, you get that text….
Now I know we’ve all been here. What do we answer? Does it depend on the vibe of the night? Or does it depend on who you’re going out with? Is it determined by where you are going? Or who’s gonna be there…?
Coordinating with your girlfriends is nothing new in women’s history. For decades, the routine of hitting the town with a group of your ladies has been a posh activity that women look forward to all week. This agenda is so recognized that it has consistently worked its way into pop-culture references.
Deciding whether or not to wear heels on a night out can be quite difficult, but in style just as in math, there’s always a formula. I’m going to take you on my step-by-step process when choosing if I should wear heels for the night!
STEP ONE: KNOW YOUR STYLE
The first step is definitely the most important of them all: “Know Yourself”. This trait is applicable to all categories within our life, but most importantly, through our fashions. Personal style is subjective, meaning the only person who can understand YOUR personal style is YOU. Be real with yourself. Determine early what appeals to you, and what does not. If you know that everytime you wear heels you end up itching to take them off before the night concludes, then that might just be a sign. Test your comfort levels prior to going out, so that when you’re in a pinch for time you already know what your best bet is!
Let me just make it simple, for you:
IF YOU:
- Don’t Like Heels
- Can’t Walk in Heels
- Will Not Make it Through the Night in Heels
THEN DON’T WEAR HEELS!
STEP TWO: KNOW THE VIBE
I love step two because it really makes you consider exactly what your style is.
There are two types of people in this world:
- The Overdressed
And
- The Underdressed
Coming from the perspective of someone who is routinely accused of “overdressing”, I truly believe that there is no such thing LOL! That said regardless of who my audience is, AKA the people laying eyes on my outfit that night, I dress in whatever I see fit for the occasion. Be it a feather boa to a casual dinner, a pair of sweats to a museum date, or in this case, heels to a night out with the girls, wearing what floats my boat is all that matters.
However for some of us, dressing on brand to fit the vibe of the occasion is essential, and I get that. If this sounds like you, then it’s important for you to pinpoint your environment, and dress according to your perception of it. Researching on TikTok, Instagram, or conducting a simple google search can present you with all the visuals you need to conclude what type of vibe you are walking into.
For example, if you’re going to Victory Bar and Lounge in Miami, then you know to expect the latest BBL Couture pictured first (no shade, sometimes we love BBL Couture). But if you’re going to Nobu in Malibu, you may find yourself surrounded with more classy and chic attire like that pictured next, spot the difference?
Nonetheless, it can be fun to challenge yourself to fluctuate styles based on the environment that you find yourself in. But if you’re anything like me, getting dressed is kind of a daily gamble.
Knowing your audience also relates to having a good idea of the type of ladies that you’re going out with. Say for example you’re going out with a group of 7 women and you’re the only one who can walk in heels. To keep things balanced, maybe save the heels for another time. But in my humble opinion… honey, just wear what you feel good in!
STEP THREE: KNOW YOUR SHOE
This one may be a given, but you have to evaluate what’s in your closet. I recommend that everyone keeps at least two pairs of “go-to” heels that could work with nearly any outfit. More importantly, you need a reliable shoe that screams cute, but also comfort. Spending time with your heels in order to know which ones are a hit for casual wear, and which ones are only meant for the pictures is a pro tip. Listen to your heels, respect your heels, and most importantly break in your heels before wearing them!
Now that my guide to wearing heels is in your toolkit, I hope you’ve gained a better understanding of yourself and your preferred shoe! To reiterate, always remember to Know Your Style, Know the Vibe, and Know Your Shoe!
KynCamille.com 
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